....Good Girls Don't Make History

No one really understands the laws of the Universe. As an adult and a married woman, I still haven't figured it out yet. Maybe if I did, my reality would have been different.

Being married comes with a lot of temptation. Most married couples can relate to this. My engagement ring was like "man magnet", I got a lot of offers that never really existed till that moment. This was the period I met Surveyor Gbenga. How this has become a tale, but it really happened to me. Being newly wedded and still enjoying my honeymoon gave me that feeling of royalty. I can't really explain the feeling, but you'll experience it eventually. So every royal treatment I got, seem natural even though it wasn't coming from my husband.

Surveyor Gbenga is everything a typical Nigerian woman will do anything to have; handsome, tall and rich, why won't I be tempted. Our meeting was one of those "by chance meeting" and looking back I don't think I regretted running into him. 

Our relationship was platonic and he respected the fact that I was married. We hung out as friends a lot. I visited him occasionally and when I'm leaving, that's a different ball game entirely, he always hands me a fat envelope for cab fare. I didn't think much about what people will say or anything wrong in just being friends. I loved the attention and the care he showered on me. I love my husband a lot and nothing can change that but when temptation comes to inform of my beloved Surveyor, you might have a second thought.

My friendship with Gbenga waxed stronger with each passing moment. I began to confide in him a lot. I seek advice and also share my ideas with him. He is a really smart man and had a kind heart. Gbenga always wants the best for me or so I thought. Spending so much time with someone, definitely, something was fated to happen. After a couple of months in our innocent and platonic relationship filled with milk and honey, the lion awoke from his slumber to seek his heart desires. I won't say I didn't see it coming, let's just say I was in self-denial or maybe I just want to cherish those moments and hope he doesn't make demands. How wrong I was. 

One fateful evening, we were at one of his condo sipping my favourite wine of all time. Sitting by the poolside, which has also become my favourite part of his house. He kept staring at me and had this grin on his face. He had given me flirty looks before but this one seems different. I overlooked it and felt maybe he had one of those his amazing surprise for me. I became hopeful as usual. When he said nothing but kept staring, I became uncomfortable and decided to take my leave. I have learned to avoid anything mushy or too cozy with him. I felt this was one of those moments, so better leave before tell-tale ends the evening. When I made the move to indicate I was leaving, he stood and held me so tight. That was a first I thought and I wasn't feeling safe, so I had to play it smart. He told me without mincing words that he wants me, I can also tell by the hardness I felt from his embrace. He said he can give me everything I want, all I need to do was warm his bed or like he put it "fuck buddies". All I could think about while he spoke was how to get out of this unsoiled and how I missed my husband so much at that moment. I kept praying that if I get out of it, I won't get involved in such friendship anymore. I told him I couldn't, telling him about my marriage and how wrong it is to ruin my matrimonial commitment. Alas, he let me go, looked at me, then smile and said that I was one of those good girls who don't go far in life and that he wouldn't force it but I should know he can give me the world if I only I sleep with him. I walked out of his duplex that night and also walked out of his life.

I still like to think that Gbenga was a good man. I recall telling a friend about it and she called me stupid for not accepting his offer, stating clearly that my "good girl" personality will get me nowhere. 

To be continued........